#dont speak for my mental health

[imnooneyouknow]

“nah youre depressed” ahah didnt know you could speak for my own fucking mental health!

fuck you. “she just kinda sits there depressed” shut up. you dont include me in your fucking conversations so im bored. im not depressed. literally shut the fuck up. dont speak for my mental health. its MY mental health, which you dont know anything about. i hope you fracture your leg and it bursts your popliteal artery.

[bedazzlecunt]

if you need to take a break from kink, if you need less of a dynamic, you're not a bad person. a sub who needs time off from the rules and punishments is not a bad sub. a dom who needs a break from being in control or giving punishments is not a bad dom. you're a whole, complex person, and there's no shame in not being able to be one thing one hundred percent of the time. it's okay to take a break. anyone who shames you or makes you feel like you're letting them down because you aren't up to playing the way you usually are is not a good partner. don't let anyone shame you for attending to your needs, even if those needs include "less kink."

[linuxfemme]

i say this in the most sincere way i possibly can. we as a society need general information on schizophrenia and related psychotic disorders to be well known it is IMPERATIVE that as a society if we want to improve that we begin to demystify schizophrenia in the public eye. do you know what negative symptoms to look out for in the prodromal period before positive psychotic symptoms begin when early treatment is crucial? do you know what you would do if you or a loved one began to experience acute psychosis and there was no opportunity to make a plan or discuss anybody's wishes?

schizophrenia and other psychotic disorders are a part of being human. we don't know what causes them but there are documented cases of it happening for very many years across all cultures. some studies believe around 2million americans (1 in 100) are affected by a psychotic disorder. you and your loved ones are not immune.

stop viewing schizophrenia as the mysterious ~most serious mental illness~ that only exists in hushed voices. schizophrenia is an illness that is not shameful to have. read about it. talk about it. ask people if they knew it comes with so many symptoms other than hallucinations and delusions. ask them if they knew it was so hard for people to receive treatment for it. did you know it's hard to estimate how many people have it because homelessness and financial issues are so closely tied to the illness?

let's create a world where schizophrenia is not seen as scary but as an illness. let's create a world that is kinder towards people with it and with better access to care.

[sepiamestus]

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[harpieisthecarpie]

I had forgotten about this mom I had overheard during work bc it was a generally good & hectic day, but I just need to say, sincerely:

If you are a parent and your response to your child being a child is ever a cold, demeaning, repeated "shut up" and if you ever, ever tell them they're being "fucking annoying" and "fucking embarrassing" for expressing distress in public,

you need to sit down and evaluate why the fuck your first response to your child's vulnerability is to punish it and shame them, and you need to acknowledge you verbally abused someone in your care, and you need to put in the work to earn your child's trust.

you need to do better and be better, starting with a sincere apology you don't demand forgiveness for.

Parenthood is hard, its stressful, but that is never an excuse to hurt someone like that. You can always be a better parent– a better person– than you were in that moment. Always, always, always.

And you have to be.

If not for your child's wellbeing then for your guys' relationship as they grow up, because continuing this behavior is a one way ticket to your child avoiding you even on holidays, even when you miss them the most.

It's the person you raised going no-contact and blocking your number, and you not knowing if they're in the hospital or getting married or having their own child.

And it will not be your child's fault. You wouldn't have earned those privileges, because you taught them their existence was a burden. You wounded them in ways they could only heal if they escaped from you.

That shame and that sin will never be on your child's soul.

It will be on yours.

[hertwood]

i was tagged recently by both @quigzahhutt and @dwarvenchords to share a recent excerpt of a wip so here's some of the wag!logan au i cooked last night 😘

Logan gets to spend his birthday at home, his new home with Kyle, with family and friends and without responsibilities weighing on his mind the whole time. He misses the new year’s countdown, preoccupied in their bedroom. Part of him once worried the sex would grow old and stale, without the looming threat of being separated hanging above them to keep it interesting. Instead, Logan is once again overwhelmed with the feeling, that this is all that life is meant for.  Kyle wishes him a happy birthday again, before bed, even once midnight has passed. He kisses him with the same love and tenderness he always has, and Logan’s never felt more optimistic for a new year.

i am tagging @notanotherwritingblog & @colors-of-feeling if yall would like to participate 💖💖💖

[uncanny-tranny]

I think a lot of people are frustrated sometimes when somebody expresses that therapy just "doesn't work" for them, and I used to feel that way, too, until I realized that the therapy that I was doing just wasn't right for me.

When people think therapy, I think many just assume it's all cognitive behavioural therapy and that that is the only kind of therapy out there. However, this isn't true, and CBT can absolutely be ineffective for certain situations. If you are confused by this idea, here's an example: when I was in the midst of my most recent abusive circumstance, not only was my therapy weaponized against me by my abuser, but also, the therapists I had were ill-prepared to treat ongoing abuse. They had the tools common for CBT, but there is only so much a victim can do before their circumstances are completely out of their control. In a case like this, CBT can be an unhelpful tool alone, which is why you have people who blanket statement say that all therapy is unhelpful (understandable why one would say that if they haven't had any helpful/good experiences).

It seems like people see this idea that "therapy doesn't work" as an automatic red flag, and certainly, I can imagine why one would think that. However, in a healthcare system that generally prioritizes CBT therapy as the "only therapy," it's helpful to remember that CBT isn't always the best option or the best option alone.

[spidrboots]

xxx.

[hammill-goes-fogwalking]

one of the worst moments of my mental instability phase was when I couldnt go on the streets without comparing myself to each and every single human walking passed me.

Example: I'm in the bus. My thoughts: theres probably no person here with a worse social life than me, I'm already the worst. Ive always been the worse. I'm almost always the different one, the one who's left out, everyone's last choice. I'm sure most of my friends only pretend to like me because they have no one else around them. My family only loves me because they have to.

[then I forget how I *actually* look and make up the worst scenarios] ugh I feel so uncomfortable, everyone here has a more beautiful side-profile than I, I'm the only one with a receding chin I dislike to think about my look, maybe people in my class avoid me because they dont want to look at my ugly face and immature loser body and the way I act. Theyre too good to me and I'm not worth it. I'm not worth the friends I have. 😭

then I often tried to hide my tears but a few times I couldnt hold it and cried in front of the people 😭😭 when Im crying, stranger's faces were like *ignore her, ignore her*

the worst phase of this was last November to January?? I think?? But I still think like this sometimes, not as extreme. Imposter Syndrome is still there

[therianimal]

I feel like we really did everyone a disservice when we moralized which posts we interact with online. In the 2010's we (on tumblr especially, but other sites as well) created this sense that in order to be a Good Person(TM) we have to engage with ALL of the most miserable content about world events whenever we come across it. And I really think it doesn't help anyone - so many people in my generation feel hopeless and burnt out, which in my opinion isn't even conducive to activism anyway. Oftentimes it's just pointless misery.

But I spent years surrounded by "if you don't reblog this/interact/educate yourself/performatively demonstrate care about this you're a bad person". Whenever I scroll past certain posts or avoid cultivating a political experience on social media I feel so guilty. Like knowing everything that's happening at all times is necessary for me to be a good person. But I'm disabled. I have an anxiety disorder. It is demonstably *bad for me* to surround myself with "the world is on fire" content.

I WANT to be educated about certain things, especially things I have the power to help with (my white privilege and allyship to POC, for one example). But there are days where I think "if I see ONE MORE post about how everyone's suffering and dying I'm going to lose it" and I scroll past. I just wish I didn't feel so damn guilty about it.

[frostbite-the-bat]

talked w/ a friend about this and wanted to post something similar yesterday after a convo i saw also

about people criticizing ttcc / ttcc fans for just... being cog fans? being cog centric? usually coming from people who only like the toons.

and everyone likes what they like! it's okay! but saying that people who like the cogs are horrible and support the bad things they do, is just blatantly wrong. i thought we knew that enjoying villainous and morally Bad / grey characters is... okay? it doesn't mean you support what they do. it's interesting to explore these topics.

i've seen many people just... paint anyone who likes the cogs as horrible because they're "apologists of x and y" and... i dunno. rubs me the wrong way! you do have a point and recognize the cogs do bad things, but liking them as characters means nothing about who you are as a person.

and this is not to say that people who are in toontown for the toons are bad. hell! they are right this IS toontown. i may be on the cog liker side but i like the toons! maybe ocs more than the npcs - mostly because i like my friends and the sheer creativity the toons can bring out!!

SO what i wanna say... i dunno. let's not point fingers...? let's have fun in a goofy cartoon game together??? also complaining about people liking VILLAIN ROBOTS on TUMBLR is kind of funny to me. do you realize where you are. but then again a lot of this i see on discord and in-game as well since i avoid things on tumblr... i am a sensitive little fella i avoid misty fight bc of One Really mean "Critic" guy i saw there and i have been shivering in my bootsies since. so you get me

but like yes ttcc is more cog centric but... that's okay? things could be written better and i still wanna speak on it, and i do thing the toons deserve attention and better writing... but the fact it focuses on the cogs isn't... bad? if you don't like how con centric it is you can go play ttr...? god forbid people have fun and explore the villain's side of things...? i'm not saying either toontown server is better or worse than the other... and everyone can like their own things!!

but like... people will just like the cogs and that's okay and it doesn't make you bad. let's all be friends okay? both sides may be going at each other's necks in-game and the cogs in fact do horrible things - but it's what makes them fun, and it gives the toons things to do in the game!! but we don't gotta !!!!!!!! i may be really sarcastic and sometimes mean in private but like that's me just privately sassing, deep down i think people should just... y'know..? enjoy things.

so yea that's the guzma / cathal thought of today. toon people cog people both people are all awesome as fuck and you keep doing what you're doing i love you toontown isn't toontown without you

[perenlop]

prev. the fact that ive gained a lot of weight recently and i dont actually feel any worse than i did when i was the average weight for my height.

[littlest-bugz]

How I look trying not to be an asshole, but it's my default mode

[image does not belong to me - creator unknown]

[ghosthoodie]

do a lot of people really think having divorced parents is outlandish……like yea it sucks sometimes but it doesnt mean that im a depressed shell of a person and it also doesnt mean im weird

[puppyeared]

for like 3 weeks i was wondering why i was sleeping so much and felt listless. and just now I managed to email 3 people and responded to a month old message in the span of an hour because I got back to TAKING MY FUCKIN MEDS..........

[sepiamestus]

Arguing with people on the internet just to feel something